Tuesday, December 27, 2005

A great day #2

























Thank you so much for all your wonderful comments and e-mails. We feel so blessed to have so much support. I apologize if I don't get back to everyone right away. I love reading them though!

We had a wonderful day today with our little Mirna. She is a joy! She went to bed with no problems. She said she wanted to sleep in the bed by herself. She crashed till 10 am. She only woke up then because we started getting louder so she would get up and get ready for the zoo.

She woke up very happy. She got in the bath and said that it was hot. She looked surprised. I asked her if she wanted it colder. She said no no it's good! She loved that bath!! Kept pouring the water over her head over and over. She scrubbed her hair with shampoo but seemed confused about the conditioner. I told her it was to make her hair pretty because I couldn't think of the word for soft. Then she ran to put on her outfit. She had carefully chosen it the night before! She also wanted her hair fixed with clips, two rings, a necklace and her hot pink sunglasses!! She LOVES those sunglasses. She also got her purse and put all her little things in it.

Then we met the foster mother in the lobby and took some pictures. Mirna is a complete ham and LOVES to have her picture taken. YOU KNOW I LOVE THAT!! Today was so busy that I didn't get to take many good pictures but tommorrow we are having a relaxed day at the hotel. I'll load on the pictures I have tonight.

After picture time it was off to the zoo!! Mirna seemed to love it. It was a very pretty little zoo. Mirna was so sweet and wanted to hold Daddy or Mommy's hand all day long!! She is such a daddy's girl already. She seemed a little scared of a few animals but had a wonderful time. She wanted to wear her jean jacket even though it was warm because she said she was very pretty in it. I also overheard Mirna tell her foster mother that her daddy is muy guapo- very handsome! Awww so sweet! Daddy is just as sold on Mirna. Today I saw proof that she is his daughter as they ate off the same plate. If you know Russ you know that he doesn't eat after anyone but me, Kaitlyn and now Mirna!

After that we went to the "mall." Which was small but nice. We ate at McDonald's and had to go buy some shoes. I felt so bad because I forgot the tennis shoes that her Nonny bought her. So sorry Nonny. I will bring the other shoes to her in February. I think it turned out to be good because she loved picking out her own shoes. She picked out the kind that light up in the back. We also picked out some white dress shoes because she looked very concerned that we had a white and red Christmas dress but no white shoes!! We also got some shoes for her foster mother's 5 year old boy. Mirna was so excited about her shoes. She kept staring at them and saying I like my white shoes. Thank you for my white shoes.

When we returned to the hotel our translator was there. I had Russ take the kids on a little tour of the hotel and I asked the translator and foster mother a LOT of questions about Mirna. What we found out was mostly what I expected but a little worse. Her conditions were so difficult. She was living in what was most likely a corregated tin house- no electricity, no running water and very little to live on.

Her mother worked every single day washing clothes in the river to make a living. She was not able to spend much time with Mirna. I also asked them about a sizeable scar on Mirna's ankle. They said she recieved an injury during the hurricane that hit her village. She then had to wade through dirty water containing dead animals and it got infected.

At this point her birth mother brought her into foster care. They treated it but it left a scar. The foster mother met the birth mother only one time. She said that she heard the birth mother tell Mirna not to worry. She would be here for awhile then parents from the United States would come and get her. Sweet brave girl.

I thank the Lord for bringing her to us. The foster mother said Mirna is so precious and almost always obedient. She is very happy and helpful. She says that when she is upset she will go lay on her bed and cry for awhile. The foster mother said she is very open about what her life was like before and how she feels about it. This is good news.

After the foster mother went home the translator, Alex came to our room for awhile. We tried to have him talk to her but she wouldn't talk to him. She is very reserved with strangers, especially men. Our translator explained that in his culture men are not often kind or bonded to their little girls. He also explained that children are taught to be very cautious and aware of what is around them when they grow up in the villages (which are poor and often dangerous.)

It is hard to explain how this little 6 year old can be so completely innocent and sweet yet sassy and street smart at the same time. Yet that is what she is. Precious and a bit too wise for her age. When she walks down a street she looks around her as if checking things out. She uses sarcasm and humor as a defense with strangers but means every word. Our translator (who is a strange man to her) asked her a question and she giggled so sweetly and said, "Why would I talk to you. You are a man." He just laughed and said this is what he would expect until she knows him better. He is wonderful and so patient with her. When he is gone she says she likes him. Arggg.

The weird thing is she'll answer me or her Daddy. She seems to already trust Russ. I wonder if it's because he looks different from the men she has known. We will have work to do in helping her realize she is in a safe environment. Yet already it seems she feels safe with us and with her foster mother.

She also has a GREAT sense of humor. While the translator was here she told Russ she wanted to wrestle again. She kept telling him, " Ay vas aver" which apparently is like saying to your kids "I'm coming to get you!" It means "Oh you will see!" She was laughing and laughing. He said to her, "Okay but I'll win." Then she looked at him as sassy and cute as can be and said in spanish, "Bring it on!" We laughed so hard. I'm not sure who won but they had fun. Our translator felt she was doing really great in her bonding.

Other news- we found out that Mirna has been told about the DNA testing next week. She knows she will see her birth mother. They also said we may give a gift and pictures to the agency to give to the birth mother. YEAH! We will get at least one picture of her birth mother but are waiting to find out if we can give them a disposable camera to take more pictures of her.

We have also requested that she go to a special doctor's visit because of her exposure to debris in the hurricane. They are making an appointment. The doctor will do a thorough check up to make sure there are no problems.

On the home front- Kaitlyn is doing well. She decided she wanted to use the potty. (Of course when I'm not there!) Then she wanted to wear panties. Polka Dot let her wear panties as a reward. Later Kaitlyn pee peed on the kitchen floor and called my mom to help. My mom slipped and fell hard!! A couple of hours later my mom's friend came in and Kaitlyn said, "Polka Dot hurt her back cause slipped on my pee pee!!" Oh my goodness! That girl. She is a hoot. The two of these girls together should be hilarious.

Well right now Daddy and Mirna are doing the Barbie puzzle together for the 5th time I think. If I had known she would love puzzles so much I would have bought more. Russ may go to the store to get more tommorrow. They are also watching Veggie Tales en Espanol. She loved the dancing cucumber song. You Veggie Tales people know what I'm talking about right? Escuchen el papino, como un Leon.....

Tommorrow we will rest and hang out here. Take pictures I hope.
:0) Angel

Monday, December 26, 2005

Meeting Our Girl
















Dear Friends,

As I speak there is a full scale wrestling match going on in my hotel room. She laughs till the tears run down her cheeks and smiles in a way that makes you feel her face may crack if she smiles any wider. She is already a Daddy's girl I think. I see in his face he is overjoyed! He keeps saying, "I like her..." So far she seems to be all that we imagined her to be.

Our trip was easy. 2 1/2 hours on the plane then 5 minutes to a beautiful hotel. The Marriott is VERY nice. I will try to take a lot of pictures of the hotel for my friends who are adopting from Guatemala. It is a wonderful and BEAUTIFUL country. Everyone has been so polite and kind. The area is very nice and clean. There is a zoo, a McDonald's, Burger King, Chuckie Cheese, an Imax Theatre etc. That's just what we saw on the car ride here.

We met our little Mirna soon after we arrived at the hotel. She came up, hugged us then burst into tears and ran to her foster mother. She expressed every overwhelmed feeling openly that we felt inside our hearts. We had the translator tell her that it was fine to cry and be scared or sad or happy. We let her know that she should only stay if she wanted to. She immediately said that she wanted to stay with us and then buried her head in her foster mother. So precious. This was not upsetting to me but rather a relief. It tells me she can freely express emotion and grief. As well as witnessing how bonded she is with her foster mother. So important.

After she calmed down we went to the hotel room and ordered pizza and cokes. We sat and talked and got to know all about her. The translator and foster mom stayed with us for 2 hours. We watched a DVD we had burned of a tour of our house and lots of family members. You should have seen her face as she saw the playroom at our house. At that point I felt she was too skittish for pictures but it's burned in my mind forever. Pure awe... She LOVED the DVD and especially seeing her sister Kaitlyn.

It turns out we can leave the hotel IF we are with the foster mother. YEAH!! The foster mother wants to hang out as much as we want to. Mirna asked if we could go to the zoo tomorrow. Her foster sister told her about how fun it was when her parents came to visit and she has never been to a zoo. So tomorrow we are off to the Zoo and McDonald's.

The foster mother seems so sweet! Meeting her has been wonderful. She is so patient and affectionate with Mirna. The whole time Mirna was upset she handled it so sweetly and with great compassion. AND she invited us to her church on Friday. She goes to an evangelical church and seemed very excited to hear about ours and the children's programs. Yet another answered prayer!!!

2 hours later we had a different little Mirna in our room. She was all smiles and hugs. We asked her if she wanted to stay. She told the translator and her foster mother that she was ready for them to leave her now. Since then has been pure joy!!! We've eaten fudge that grandma made, tried on 4 or 5 outfits, painted her toenails and dug through every single item in all our suitcases. We have giggled and played and as I sat with her the Spanish came from way back in my brain and started flowing. I lived in Mexico to learn Spanish so I used to be decent. I know I sound silly but I seem to be able to get my point across and we are having full out silly conversations!! What a blessing. Russ was like WHOA ANGEL where did all this come from??? He said my mommy instinct must have kicked in and I just spoke it cause I needed to! :0)

AND if all this weren't enough Mirna has a foster sister who is being adopted by a different family. Her foster sister's adoptive parents just STUMBLED across my blog and new our little Mirna. They e-mailed me all about there visit. WOW WOW WOW! What are the odds?? They just visited their little girl recently and had a wonderful time. While they were here they met Mirna and got to spend some great time with the foster mother. I am so excited. I just wrote them back and can't wait to chat more about our girls. How amazing if we could let the girls visit each other once they are both back. I can't get over it.

Well the wrestling match has ended and Daddy and Mirna are chatting and working on a puzzle. This is the first puzzle she has ever done. The things we take for granted. She is so precious. She just screamed with joy and clapped for herself because she got a piece. Earlier I showed her the drawers for her things and she ever so carefully folded up each item and place them in neat organized piles. If she was unsure she would ask me where it should go. When she saw the gifts for her foster sister and another friend of hers she was so excited. She also asked to give away a couple of her presents to her foster sister. What a heart!!! She has almost nothing and is immediately ready to give things away. We have struck gold my dear friends. Pure gold.

Well I better get busy uploading pictures. There will be a new album shortly.
:0) Angel

PS We asked about the sad Santa pictures. She said he kept taking pictures while she was blinking and she wasn't sad. She was happy. They just took them to fast!! Go figure. Silly worried mommy....

Sunday, December 25, 2005

We are almost on our way!




Well it's nine pm Christmas night and we are burning a DVD for Mirna. We did a tour of the house and taped messages from mommy and daddy which Tia Bek kindly translated for us. We are also putting footage of our Christmas celebration. Christmas has been amazing this year. SO MUCH FUN!!! We had a wonderful time with all the family. I'll post pictures soon.
Also last week our good friends Sam and Wendi threw us a surprise shower!! It was wonderful and so many friends came. I was COMPLETELY shocked and had so much fun. We have so many wonderful things for our Mirna/ Zoe. I couldn't believe how many people showed up the week of Christmas to celebebrate with us. THANK YOU TO ALL OF YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!!!
CAN YOU BELIEVE WE LEAVE TOMMORROW?? I am so excited. We are almost there. In 18 hours we will meet our sweet girl. YEAH!!! I will post lots of updates and pictures...
Now the yucky part...
I got Christmas pictures of Mirna and she looked UPSET. Okay I know kids get upset but you've seen her pictures and she is always smiling ear to ear. In these she looks like a POW with a santa hat on. It makes my heart ache because I can't know what the problem is. It's just hard not to go crazy thinking about what is wrong. Did she hear the doctor discuss DNA testing in a couple of weeks with her foster mom? Does she know her mommy will be there? Is she sick? Did she just get in trouble or it's past lunch time? Is she missing her birth mommy at Christmas? ARGGGGG!!! So that's why I've been working on a fabulous machine that will actually clone my body so that I can move to Guatemala and still be here. PURE GENIOUS right?? I am SOOOO glad that we are going to see her tommorrow. Then I can ask her what was wrong.
I know it might sound silly but these pictures really pushed me to the brink. It's a real test of my belief in God's faithfulness. I mean I look at how faithful God has been in every step of this process. Why would he not be there to protect her now? I truly believe that He is. I used to read the Old Testament and wonder how the Isrealites could continue to doubt God after all the miracles they saw. How could they not see that God is faithful??? Now I understand. I truly feel that my test is about God's faithfulness. Do I believe that He is who I say He is? Can He truly care for my little girl? So much of my life is my illusion of control. God has been parting the Red Sea for our family and now I'm wondering if we'll get wet!! Yesterday I felt like Peter walking on water and then I looked down at the waves. Then I started to sink. I gotta get back up and walk on water!
Next time I blog I will be in Guatemala!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:0) Angel

Wednesday, December 21, 2005

Kaitlyn Cuteness

Cute stuff Kaitlyn says...
I am Cinderella and Daddy is Prince Charming
I don't have a big sister I have a picture
Daddy says, "You have soft and pretty hair."
Kaitlyn nods her head, "I DO like my hair."
I can't go to bed right now. My grandpa's comin to see me. I just need to play a little bit.

We have DNA and Family Court Date etc...

THINGS ARE GOING SO FAST!!!!!!!
We have been notified that the DNA testing will be done the first week in January. They have granted the birth mother a family court interview date for the same week because of her difficult circumstances. She lives far away in a village deeply effected by the mudslides. This is VERY quick!!!!! God has answered our prayers. We have seen ZERO delay because of the holidays. WOW WOW WOW WOW!
It looks like if things keep going this smoothly (and I am convinced they will) we should be submitted to final court in a month or so. This is AMAZING and truly a gift from God.
Final court can be crazy. It sometimes takes only 10 days. It sometimes takes months. We continue to trust God that He is in control of the timing.
As far as meeting the birth mother... Belanos does not recommend that we meet her at this time. Apparently at the family court interview they will ask whether she knows us. If she says yes it may make them suspicious of our relationship with her. They are very careful about fraud and payoffs. So they said they will talk to her about coming to meet us after final decree. We pray that she will meet with us.
At DNA testing Mirna will see her mother. If her mother will not keep contact with us then this will be the last time she will see her. I pray this is not the case. I can't imagine what this meeting will be like for them. I am so grateful that Mirna will have just spent a week with us. She will be able to tell her mother about us and that we are good to her. She will look healthy, well taken care of and I pray very happy. I pray this will give her mother some measure of peace in her decision. I cry whenever I think about it.
At this meeting they will test Mirna and the birth mother's DNA. They will take a picture of them together. They will let them visit a little bit. She will sign her rights away for the 2nd out of 4 times.
That same week she will have a family court interview. At this interview she will be advised of her rights and they will determine that she is making this decision of her own free will. She will be educated on what it means to sign away her rights. She will then sign away her rights for the 3rd out of 4 times.
From what I hear out of approx 50 birth mothers that our agency deals with in a year usually 3 will change their mind. 2 will change their minds very quickly before they sign away their rights for the second time. 1 out of 50 will do it later in the process. However it seems to be more rare for a birth mother to change her mind in the case of an older child because she has usually thought it through and knows she cannot provide for the child.
I keep hearing on the forums that things are going very quickly right now in Guatemala. Things that were taking 7 weeks last month are taking 2 weeks this month!!! Keep up the praying.
IT'S WORKING!!
So here is what I know about our trip and other stuff....
What will you do when you get there?
We depart at 9:30am on the 26th it's a three hour flight- I don't think there is a time change
We will get to Guatemala at about 12:30 in the afternoon on Mon the 26th
The Marriott provides transportation to the hotel about 5 minutes away
We call the interpreter/coordinator to let her know we are in and settled
She will bring Mirna and the foster mother at 3:00 pm and let us ask any questions etc..
How will you commnicate with Mirna?
We know a little bit of Spanish. Many of the staff members at the Marriott are bilingual and very willing to help. We will also hire an interpreter for an hour each day so we can discuss things that are more in depth or complicated.
Other stuff...
You don't to have electrical adapters for Guatemala. That's nice!!!
There is a big grocery/convenience store very near the hotel that is very safe and has most anything we might need.
There is a McDonald's right next to the Marriott. Ahhhh the taste of America if we get homesick.

Monday, December 19, 2005

Family Court!

We are in Family Court! Praise The Lord!!!! I have asked for clarification on our court date. I am a little fuzzy on how all this works. I just got an e-mail saying we are in the family court process. To me that sounds like we must have gotten the court that just returned from vacation... Don't ya think!! WOW! We seem to be just cruising along so far. God is faithful. Again they expect delays because of Christmas but my God is in charge here and we will trust His timing.
The e-mail also said that our I -171 H approval is on it's way or in Guatemala and they expect it to go very quickly because all of the paperwork is ready to go. WOW!!
I am wondering if they will do DNA testing while we are in Guatemala City. How cool would that be?? Please pray for the birth mother. This DNA testing will be especially trying for her. It is major. She will sign away her rights again (she has to do it 4 times) and see Mirna. Also pray for Mirna's heart. I cannot fathom the pain that this has been and will be for both of them. Usually if a birth mother changes her mind DNA testing is when it occurs. We pray for wisdom for her and protection for Mirna's heart and our hearts. We deeply desire contact with the birth mother and for her to always have access to information about Mirna. We are working with our agency on whether this is a possibility. We beg your prayers again on this issue.
Thank you!!
Angel
PS I love your comments and encouragement. Thank you and keep it coming!!

Tuesday, December 13, 2005

I 171-H Approval

I went to pick up our approval today and overnighted it to my case worker. The last piece of the puzzle to set all the parts into motion. Things are going very well so far. In the next few days I should have a court date. Praying that it is sooner rather than later.... If things keep going this smoothly I will be thrilled. Just trying to trust God's timing.
My energy level is a little better today. I still feel like I'm dragging but I can feel myself beginning to recover. Yesterday the very thought of trying to clean overwhelmed me. Today I can think about it. I just don't want to do it!!! Maybe by tomorrow my house will get clean..
Ahhh such is life.
:0) Angel